Being single can really suck. Especially when you don’t want to be single and especially on holidays like yesterday. But what if I told you that there is really only one thing that is causing you to suffer over your relationship status AND that you could shift it in an instant?

Here is the truth about what causes 100% of the suffering over being single: the belief that being with someone else would be better.  Really? How do you even know that’s true? Whether that someone is an ex, someone you are currently obsessed with, or the fantasy of a future someone; your belief that when he or she comes along then your life will be better is what is torturing you.

Here is the good news: in reality all is well. There is nothing wrong with you.  You are totally loveable and you are surrounded by love.  You are not alone.  You’ve just lost sight of how amazing you are because you are so busy looking around for someone else.  The fantasy of a future relationship is at the root of your suffering which is FANTASTIC.  Why? Well because you can’t change reality but you can shift your experience of it.

If you want to change your experience of being single, you have to change how you perceive it.  The spiritual definition of a miracle is a change in perception.  Are you ready for a miracle?  Now I know the miracle you may be praying for is that your soulmate shows up and you can run off toward “happily ever after” together. However, praying for that miracle is reinforcing your suffering because the thought that precedes it is rooted in when/then belief.

So if you are ready for a miracle right NOW pray for freedom from your suffering over being single.  Pray to trust Divine Timing. Pray to grow in your awareness of love everyday. Pray to be the fullest expression of your Highest Self.  Pray for support in removing any walls around your heart.  Pray to experience more acceptance and compassion. Pray for the courage and opportunity to share your gifts more fully.  Pray for a deeper connection with the Uni-verse.  Pray to see your life the way the Uni-verse sees it. And then start living a FULL life.

I notice that so many single people (especially women) take on the belief that they are somehow incomplete and live their life like they are in limbo.  They expend a lot of energy looking for the next one and waiting to do things they want to do until they are in their next relationship. Living an “in between” mindset is preventing you from enjoying your life at its full capacity!

It is wonderful to have an intention to be in a loving, healthy partnership. Romantic relationships are amazing because they present so many opportunities to grow in our learning and our loving.  AND not being in a romantic relationship is a gift because it offers you the opportunity to deepen the most important relationship you will ever have: the one with yourself.  If you choose right now to give up the belief that being with someone else would be better, you will immediately begin shifting your experience of singlehood. Be willing to look at your past relationships, starting with your parents, and examine the patterns and hurts that may still be lingering around. Commit to doing the work to break the patterns, heal the hurts and update your stories about love. And then start having a fabulous relationship with YOU (and I’m not talking about the “Sex and the City” kind of single and fabulous where you drink martini’s, trash talk about dating and boasting about how you don’t need anyone).

It’s time to remove the scarlet “S” from your chest.

It’s time to stop buying into the idea that your life would be better if you were in a romantic relationship.

It’s time to stop living in limbo.

It’s time to stop judging yourself as incomplete or unworthy.

It’s time to stop draining your energy by constantly looking around for someone else.

Your relationship status does not define you and it absolutely should not impact the amount of love you feel.

Now I know this may seem easier said than done.  You know that loving yourself and accepting your life as it is would relieve a lot of suffering. But moving from an awareness of self-love as a concept to truly integrating it as an experience often takes some guidance.

You do not have to suffer over being single. I promise. Take the first step today by refusing to buy into the lie that life would be better if you were with someone and see the Truth of how amazing your life becomes when you are truly with YOU.

Love,

Christine

Today feels like a great day for a miracle, doesn’t it?

Webster defines a miracle as: an extraordinary event manifesting divine intervention in human affairs; an extremely outstanding or unusual event, thing, or accomplishment.

But from my point of view, miracles are much easier to manifest than Webster makes it seem.  You are a divine being having a human experience so it is totally possibly for you to create an unusual, extraordinary event in your life today. That’s why I like the spiritual definition of a miracle: a change in perception.

You see all you need to do to be a miracle maker is shift the way you look at things.  The majority of suffering or stagnation in life comes from the meaning we make out of the things that are happening in our lives and NOT from what actually is happening.

Do you want a miracle?  If the answer is yes (and quite honestly I don’t see why it wouldn’t be unless you really enjoy suffering), then think of something in your life that you currently wish was different.  Perhaps it’s your current job, relationship status or physical appearance.  Or it could be something that’s annoying you or a to-do you’ve been putting off. Now commit to seeing it whatever it is differently – CHANGE YOUR PERCEPTION of it.   Tell yourself a different story than the one you’ve been telling yourself and you are a miracle maker!!

Really sometimes the most profound changes in your experience can come from committing to making the simplest of changes.  Life doesn’t have to be so hard if you believe in miracles.

Do you believe?

If you are praying for a miracle in regards to your love life, don’t forget to register for our free call on 2/22.  And for the single folks, if you are interested to learn the ONLY reason you are suffering in singlehood, check out my blog today in The Daily Love.

With love from your fellow miracle maker,

Christine

“I am realistic – I expect miracles.” Wayne Dyer

“Love is like playing the piano. First you must learn to play by the rules, then you must forget the rules and play from your heart.” -Unknown

Happy Valentines Day! Do you hear that and cringe because you think that today is a ridiculous made-up Hallmark holiday? Or are you doing your best to avoid the day all together because you are not happy with your relationship status? Or maybe you are totally into the spirit of V-day and looking forward to a romantic evening (and an excuse to eat chocolate).

Can you love your V-day experience no matter what it is? Remember that the focus of today (and really every day) is LOVE.

To remind you of the Truth about love, I want to share my most favorite Valentine’s Day card with you (I show it to you in the video). It’s from my nephew. It’s a red heart with silver and white scribbles on it that says, “Happy Valentine’s Day Auntie.” Now I know he does not have a clue what Valentine’s Day is – he’s two. But he totally embodies the spirit of today because he is still completely connected to the love that he is. He wasn’t thinking things like, “I hope someone makes me a card,” or “When is my soulmate going to show up?” or “I really hope my partner would do something special for me today.”

That is what is so great about being two years old…we are still plugged into the love that we are. We haven’t yet bought into the lie that love has to come from someone else. So today I invite you to approach Valentine’s Day like a two year old by treating it like any other day and make your primary focus on being in love with YOU. The more you love you, the more love you have to share with others. Self-love = more love. I like that equation!

Love exists in all kinds of forms. We get a little tripped up and confused when it comes to love and look around for someone else to fill up our love tank. But the most important relationship you will ever have is the one with yourself. I know you know that. And I also know that decoding the conditioning of outsourcing love is often easier said than done, which is why I am co-hosting a free call on 2/22 where I’ll share how to have a healthier, more loving relationship with yourself.

CLICK HERE to register – it’s free!

You’ve been asking me for more calls and courses so this was designed with you in mind. On this call we’ll be sharing how to be at peace in your love life …
no matter who or who isn’t your Valentine. The call is FREE and will be recorded if you can’t make it live. It’s for ANYONE of ANY AGE and ANY RELATIONSHIP STATUS. I promise you that this call will shift your mind, open your eyes, touch your heart, and turn your love power on high.

Happy love day,

Christine



“There is no remedy for love but to love more.” Henry David Thoreau

“Love doesn’t make the world go round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.” Franklin P. Jones

Here’s the TRUTH:

Love is everywhere.
Love is free.

And there is no reason why – regardless of your relationship status –
You should ever have to suffer, settle or starve for love.

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You deserve to be happy in love.
To be happy with your love life, no matter who is or isn’t sleeping next to you.

Single.
Divorced.
Married.
Dating.
Committed.
Heart-broken.
Or “it’s complicated.”

The only relationship that should determine how loved or happy you feel
Is the relationship with YOU.

But you know that already, don’t you?
You know that you should love yourself.
Easy when life is grand or your romantic life is sailing along like the love boat.
But what happens when the water gets choppy, or you get stranded on a desert island alone, or you get lost at sea?

You give away your “Love Power” that’s what!
You give your power to feel loved and happy to someone else, be that a current, previous or wishful boyfriend, girlfriend, lover, or partner.

Your self-love wanes, your love boat capsizes, and you for get to act as your own best friend.
You start making choices that make you unhappy.

But don’t feel bad, you are not alone.
We have all been there.
And there is no reason you have to stay there!

This February, me and my sister of self-love, Christine Arylo (who went from an over-achieving ‘successful’ woman dumped just hours before her engagement party to a woman who has created two of the most loving relationships I know – first with herself, and second with her soul man) are on a mission to end love-starvation, loneliness, and settling in love…

For good!

And you are invited to join us, to Take Your Love Power Back, and be HAPPY IN LOVE no matter who is or isn’t sleeping next to you:

It all starts on February 22nd (eight days after a day that brings more suffering than happiness for most – Valentines Day)

Get yourself set up to bring BIG LOVE into your life this year…. Join Us for this Transformational Conversation: 3 Keys to Ending Love Starvation, Loneliness and Settling: Take Your Love Power Back!

Wednesday, February 22nd at 5pm PST | 8pm EST

—> Sign up for the FREE Call and Recording <—

For the first time ever, we are going to open the book to the hard-found keys, secrets and insights we worked so hard to find – things that rocked us to our core, but that freed us to finally be happy in love.

I am going to share some of the most profound teachings about LOVE I know… things you haven’t heard from me yet.  Things that have taken me a broken engagement, a divorce, incredibly hard spiritual lessons, 10 years of a committed self-love journey, and the crazy world of dating to understand how love work and create one of the happiest love lives I know (while single!)

(I taped the video below to give you a sneak peek)

The event on the 22nd is for you are ready to:

• Take your love power back
• Make your happiness dependent on one relationship only – the one with yourself.
• Stop suffering over being single or not having the relationship you want
• Stop comparing your love life to others
• Stop believing there is something you have to do or be in order to earn or find love
• Stop putting pressure on yourself to get married, find a mate, or reach any pre-conceived timeline you have in your head about where you need to be right now
• Believe you can really, truly be happy in love even before you find your ‘one’ or your relationship becomes ‘perfect.’

Name, this call is something that I am over the moon excited about sharing with you.  My heart is 100% dedicated to showing you the way to being surrounded by so much love that EVERY area of your life gets better.  I’ve done it – and I’m going to show you shortcuts I found along the way.

See you on the 22nd!

With love,

Christine

p.s. And… in honor of self-love day on Feb 13th, when you register for the call on the 22nd, you also get – for free – the official super fun, super daring Self-Love Kit – includes a hand-illustrated e-book that takes you through making a powerful self-love promise with yourself, powerful self-love teachings on self-compassion, radical self-care and self-respect, and the 2012 self-love song and poem!

P.P.S. Remember your friends! What friends of yours need a serious LOVE BOOST? Forward this email to them to remind them you want 2012 to be their YEAR OF LOVE too! –>The More LOVE We Share The BETTER!<–

Last week I was looking at an email on my phone while stopped at a red light.  All of a sudden I heard ferocious honking and a woman yelling. Thinking that the woman in the minivan next to me needed help, I rolled down my window.   I soon realized after she threw a few f-bombs and other no-so-nice words in my direction that she was upset with me for looking at my phone. Although I had put my phone down, she continued with finger pointing, threats to call the police, and more screaming.  Inside myself I said, “God Bless You”, rolled up my window and was on my way after the light turned green. She continued to honk and yell at me until I turned onto another street.

At the time this happened, I felt compassion for this woman who seemed to be incredibly upset.  Perhaps she had been in an accident because of cell phone distractions.  Or maybe she was just having a bad day.  Who knows?  All I knew was that her upset AT me did not have to cause upset IN me.  As I drove away I maintained a feeling of equanimity inside myself despite her actions.  Now, because I know me and I am familiar with my old patterns, I can honestly say this was a relief to experience.  I don’t know about you, but I really don’t like to be yelled at – especially when I believe I haven’t done anything wrong.  My ego has also enjoyed being right in the past that has led to defensive behavior.  If this same incident had happened years ago I would have probably either yelled back or pulled some kind of passive aggressive move like smiled and waved to show her she wasn’t getting to me (even though she was).

Fortunately I’ve had years of practicing letting go of being triggered by the actions of others. Many “aha” moments have shown me that non-reactivity is essential to my peace of mind.  I am aware that I cannot choose how people treat me but I can choose how I respond to their actions.  I have learned that equanimity (meaning “evenness of mind especially under stress”) comes from choosing

Today’s UPdate is to update you on some new groovy things and ask you for your input. So I’ll get right to it because there’s a lot to share and if you just want to watch the video that’s cool too just make sure to check out all the links below. . .

First, you will start hearing from me a little more often. Each Thursday you will continue to get my weekly uplifting UPdate and a few times a month you may also hear from me on a Monday or Tuesday with a special announcement, invitation, free resource or a link to a juicy interview with other experts and teachers.

Second, when I find products or courses that I really love, I may send you a special email inviting you to check it out. Complete transparency: sometimes I earn an affiliate fee on the things I promote for others. Meaning, if you purchase something I promote, I may get some cash. If you ever do purchase a product thru me and you are not satisfied, I will return 100% of the affiliate fee I may have earned to you.

Third, look out for more courses and events from me! Highlights include: a telecourse Christine Arylo and I are launching with a FREE CALL in February that will teach you how to fall in love with your love life not matter what your

Since I was a little girl I have wanted children. I loved playing house and had a collection of dolls that I mothered. By this point in my life I thought I’d absolutely have kids of my own . . . But I don’t. I have felt the longing for them, especially when my friends and younger sister gave birth and I witnessed them stepping into Motherhood. Along with all of the joy that brought me, it also brought up some feelings of sadness and thoughts like, “Will I ever have the experience of being a mom?” The more I thought those kinds of thoughts, which were creating the sadness, the more the longing became an ache that really hurt.

Until one day it finally stopped hurting. And NOT because I met the man of my dreams, got pregnant and became a mother. It was because I had an “aha” moment after an extremely powerful session with a client. As she was sharing about a huge shift she had, I was aware of how overcome I was in that moment with love. My heart felt so full. It finally dawned on me that I do “mother” already. Not in the sense of raising children of my own, but rather by offering my clients feedback, support, nurturing, encouragement, guidance and most of all unconditional love. The longing for what I

Are you overdosing on self-help? This may seem like an ironic question coming from me since my passion and career is all about personal growth. But here’s the thing: I’ve noticed that a lot of people who embark on a journey of self-discovery often go through a phase where they start to OD on self-help.

When we embark on our path of personal discovery the coaches, healers, teachers, courses, seminars, programs and books we seek out are incredibly valuable (and necessary). They create a safe space for us to address and heal our issues, teach us how to reframe our limiting beliefs and create a container for us to reconnect to our Higher Self and The Uni-verse.  And once we get a taste of self-help most of us find ourselves yearning for more because it feels so good!

Personal growth is absolutely amazing and there are INCREDIBLE resources out there. I would not know how to stop learning and growing.  In fact, you’ll be getting an email from me next week telling you about a lot of cool new resources I’m offering this year.

AND I am aware from observing many people that too much self-helping can become a way to avoid being the truth of who you are and doing the things that are aligned with that Truth.

One of the very subtle misunderstandings that may show up when we start to “work on ourselves” is that there is always something to work on. In other words, sometimes we can become so fixated on wanting to fix, improve and heal ourselves that we get a bit addicted to self-help.  We run from healer to coach to expert to seminar to program thinking that THIS will be the answer and finally be cured of whatever it is that we think is wrong.

Personal growth resources help us wake up! They shine light on the Truth, help us resolve issues and

“Love doesn’t make the world go round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.” Franklin P. Jones

Are you reinvigorated and ready to make 2012 your best year yet? Perhaps you are three days into your new workout routine, diet, meditation practice or creative endeavor that you resolved to commit to this year. Awesome! I’m all for setting intentions and goals for the New Year.

AND I am for keeping things simple.

Sometimes we can get so caught up in the specifics of our goals and visions that we loose sight of the big picture. I bet that if you reviewed your wish list for 2012 you would discover that at the root of everything you desire is LOVE. You want the partner to love and be loved by. You want to do work you love. You want to share love through self-expression. You want to be financially stable so you can focus on giving and receiving love. All the experiences and things you long for come from a longing for LOVE.

But you do not have to wait for those things to manifest to experience the love you long for. Today I invite you to take a step back from your lists and vision boards and just focus on one thing: BEING LOVE. That’s it.

If you commit to being LOVE as your over-arching intention for everyday . . .

You would see everyone through the eyes of compassion and acceptance, including yourself. You would recognize your fellow classmates in the school of earth who are experiencing their own unique curriculum. You would see that you are no better or worse than anyone – the comparison game would end. You would see that we are all one.

You would truly listen. And you’d be listening from your heart rather than your head. You would not be judging, evaluating,

Because I know that you are eager students of life, I am kicking off the New Year with a pop quiz to prepare you for our super cool online course that begins in one week! Okay so maybe it is just the inner nerd in me who actually likes quizzes, but this will be easy, fun and even enlightening. Don’t over think the questions – promise I will tell you what this quiz is for once you finish. And since I don’t have a fancy system set up to electronically record your answers, you’ll have to do it the old-fashioned way and write them down on paper.

Ready? Begin:

What is more challenging for you?
1. Making a to-do list
2. Surrendering and going with the flow

When dreaming up your ideal mate and/or job, do you:
1. Make a vision board
2. Make a checklist

If you had a spare 15 minutes, would you rather:
1. Meditate
2. Catch up on all your emails

Someone invites you to Kirtan, do you:
1. Go in a heartbeat
2. Kirtan? WTF?

You have a big decision to make, do you:
1. Turn within, ask, and wait for guidance
2. Make a pro/con list

In a conversation with a friend, are you:
1. Listening more to the energy behind the words and simply holding a loving space
2. Thinking of what you’re going to say and what this person needs to do

When struggling with something in your life, are you more likely to:
1. Pray about it and let it go
2. Fix it and figure it out

Does your jewelry look like it’s from:
1. Tibet
2. Tiffany’s

Would you say your relationship with your finances is:
1. Problematic
2. Systematic

What would you like to learn about:
1. How to get things done
2. How to get out of your head

Great job! Now review your answers and total the number of “1’s” and “2’s” separately. The purpose of this quiz